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here's an interesting fact stress levels
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actually declin significantly after the
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age of 50 Research indicates that while
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stress remains relatively constant from
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our 20s through our 40s it begins to
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drop significantly after the age of 50
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isn't that a bit counterintuitive I mean
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most of us may think that aging means
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more stress after all getting older
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comes with challenges like health
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retirement and even debt so what exactly
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changes after 50 what's the secret sauce
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because if we can figure out the
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underlying factors we might just be able
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to implement them and start living a
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stressfree life right now firstly
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emotional regulation improves as we get
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older something amazing happens we get
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better at controlling our emotions think
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about it by the time you hit 50 you've
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likely faced your fear share of
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challenges you've probably already dealt
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with heartbreaks career setbacks and
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maybe even had a few sleepless nights
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worrying about the future but here's the
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good part all these experiences don't
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just toughen you up they teach you
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what's worth your energy and what isn't
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so by the time you hit 50 you've already
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learned to pick your battles and let go
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of some of this stuff that used to keep
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you up at night it's like developing an
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emotional filter instead of reacting to
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every frustration or every
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disappointment you learn to pause to
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breed and to ask yourself is this really
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worth my peace and you know what more
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often than not the answer is no here's
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my best tip for us who are below 50 to
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start to regulate our emotions right now
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refrain challenges by asking yourself
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will this matter in 5 years time is this
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a bottle that that is really worth
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fighting not all battles are worth
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fighting number two prioritizing
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meaningful relationships have you ever
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heard about the socio emotional
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selectivity Theory well basically as we
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age our perception of time shifts when
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we're younger it feels like we have all
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the time in the world so we often end up
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spreading ourselves too thin chasing
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superficial goals growing large Social
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Circles or saying yes to everything but
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by 50 things change you start to Value
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quality over quantity you focus on deep
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meaningful relationships and let go of
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the people or activities that don't
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bring you any Joy it's like decluttering
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your life but for your emotions and this
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shift is a huge stress reliever why
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simply because meaningful relationships
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bring happiness they're a source of
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support understanding and connection
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everything you need to avoid stress the
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science researcher Laura Carson who
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developed this Theory found that as
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people get older they invest more time
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in emotionally fulfilling experiences
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her study show that the older adults are
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happier because they prioritize what
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matters most if you're over 50 let me
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know if you agree with this in the
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comments Below have you really learned
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to prioritize what matters most luckily
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you don't have to wait until you're 5050
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to focus on meaningful connections start
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evaluating your Social Circle today ask
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yourself who is in my life that
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energizes me who drains me spend more
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time with the energizers the people who
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truly care about you unless time with
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those people who add stress to your life
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and here's a quick challenge pick one
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meaningful relationship and work on it
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this week call a friend or family member
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you've been meaning to reconnect with
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and don't just ask the usual Small Talk
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how are you and how's your week ask them
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a deeper question what's something
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you've been excited about lately or
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what's the best memory we've shared
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priorize what matters number three
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gaining perspective through life
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experiences here's another reason stress
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drops after 50 you've lived through a
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lot by the time you hit this Milestone
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you've probably faced challenges that
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younger you couldn't even imagine
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although those tough experiences give
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you perspective you realize that most
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problems are temporary and stressing
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over them doesn't help by 50 you've
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likely mastered the art of focusing on
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the big picture you've learned to say
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this too shall pass here's my best tip
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to achieve this right now when You Face
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a stressful situation reflect on a past
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challenge you've overcome remind
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yourself that you've handled tough times
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before and you'll handle this one too
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you'll have what it takes to succeed
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here's your challenge pick one tip from
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today's video and start doing it right
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now will you work on regulating your
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emotions improving your relationships or
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putting things into perspective comment
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below which one you're trying remember
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you don't have to wait until you're 50
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your best Life Starts Today as the
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saying goes you can't control the waves
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but you can sure learn how to surf start
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learning the skills today that others
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take decades to develop and you'll reap
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the rewards much sooner but here's a
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little secret stress isn't always a bad
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thing the key is knowing how to
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recognize and balance the different
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types of stress in your life if you're
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curious about how to turn stress into
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your ally instead of your enemy you want
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